I realized lately, or rather, I decided to readily admit that I am obsessive. My mom and I are alike in so many ways and it becomes more apparent with every passing conversation. We had a good laugh this morning over how much we are like in our nonsense obsessions; the lists we make for ourselves that are unnecessary; the standards we arbitrarily set for ourselves that are high and completely pointless. There are times and places where this attention to detail and drive for perfection are useful, but more often than not, it is a hindrance, i.e. you actually do not need to feel pressed to watch every program you DVR. ha! Sorry mom, that was just too good.
I have my fair share of neurosis: a dollop of anxiety, a bit of obsession, a pinch of compulsion, and a handful of perfectionism. These are probably driving forces in my need for and love of yoga and meditation. I had “one of those days” this week where I doubted myself, felt I was doing it all wrong, wasting loads of time, and needed some fine tuning. I love blogging but had a moment of “I’m done; this is silly” but after sleeping on it, I realized I put unnecessary pressure on myself not only to write for my blog but more on reading blogs. I am okay with accepting that I don’t have to keep up my schedule of posting Mondays, Wednesdays and Freestyle Fridays. Heaven forbid I miss a day! What would happen? Would the world stop turning? Would my just 301 followers (yes, I’m counting) give up on me entirely? Aren’t you all waiting with bated breath what I will say next? A bit dramatic, right? Sometimes I have to go high drama to give myself a good laugh and some perspective, i.e. “Chill the F out!”
The deal with blog reading is that I feel an obligation to read every single blog post of every single blog I love. When I started this whole thing, I had the ones I loved sent to my inbox. Then I found more great blogs and the posts piled up until I felt like I was drowning in all of the unread posts. But, after some much needed laughter about my craziness, I decided to stop all email notifications and delete everything out of my inbox. Poof! Gone! And “Awww“, it felt so good. I know some really awesome blog posts will go unread but I can live with that. Making those changes felt almost as good as deleting the Facebook app from my phone. *Although, it pained me a bit to turn off email notifications of my most beloved bloggers I am certain I can keep up through the Reader.
That’s the other thing, I never use the Reader, so I felt bad about all of the other blogs I follow not getting sent to my inbox that I was missing. Kinda ridiculous, right?
So, here are my blogging tips for the neurotic:
- Obsess over things that justify being obsessed over, which comes down likely to a very short list if there is anything on it at all.
- Blogging and reading blogs does not need to make you feel stressed; it is supposed to be pleasurable. Unless you’re making millions on your blog or reading other blogs, don’t stress it! I don’t receive any compensation from my blog but that is not my goal anyway.
- If you suffer from the sparkles of crazy like me, find ways to lessen your load. Delete unnecessary notifications.
Our world is almost too connected in a way that leaves us disconnected at the same time. This excessive need to “keep up” is likely winding people up. It is no wonder “anxiety” is such an epidemic these days. It seems I read or hear more and more from people who suffer either regularly or on and off from anxiety. Has it always been this way I wonder?
I am learning, albeit slowly, that finding ways to disconnect will allow us to actually connect better to others and more importantly, ourselves.
*Truth be told, I went back and changed a handful of my loyal blogger friends back to my inbox. They are just too special. But I still made progress! And I am loving the Reader and all of the blogs I have been missing all this time.